By Reyhan Harmanci (Click here for original article.) Last June, my morning routine was interrupted by a series of texts from a friend, showing a pair of screen shots that were at first incomprehensible.
In one, under the headline "Better Singles, Better Dates," my boyfriend Patrick's smiling face hovered in the bottom row of a Brady Bunch-style grid of other men, as if it had been ripped from a personal account. " my friend wrote, "Since when are you guys online dating? "Patrick," I yelped, "look at this." As we huddled over the phone, another image popped up -- another grid of faces, but this time all women.
We'be been living together for a year now so if a girl says yes let's meet up ...
and if i bring it to light, I feel i have to be ready to call it all off.. It feels surreal, I cannot comprehend how he can act normal taking me to family dinners go shopping and asking out other girls on badoo and registering on sites like toyboy warehouse.
Of course, that's where my mind went first: Was my live-in boyfriend of five-plus years maintaining a double life filled with Internet honeys?
But how would that work -- he doesn't even know how to send an instant message.
Within a few moments, though, it dawned on me what I was looking at.
At first, he replied that he has a couple of times, and then when I was unsure whether he was being honest, I asked again and he then said a couple of times a week.I told him that I found this a bit weird that he is going on a dating website to look at other girls, when supposedly he is in a relationship with me.He said that he didn’t see anything wrong in it and it meant nothing.Neither the images nor the site were immediately familiar to us.The pictures hadn't been taken from our social network profiles, nor had Patrick and I ever online-dated.